Caring for Widows: The Christian Approach

How should a society treat its widows? The ideal answer to this is, the way it treats every other human being. But we know that for most widows, reality has fallen brutally short of this ideal. Through the ages, and in too many cultures, widows have generally been a vulnerable and often savagely exploited group. The question …

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Elder Abandonment: Who Left Mercy?

As long as my mother resided in Mumbai and quietly took care of my grandmother, her siblings and their spouses were content. But her relocation to Abu Dhabi in 2006, which necessitated them having to actively participate in their mother's care, became a point of contention. Some family members have termed mom's leaving Mumbai, as "abandoning her mother". In this …

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Can a Christian Cut Off Family?

Family disputes, though complicated, are not uncharted territory where those mired in them must navigate blindly. Advice on the subject is abundant. Ultimately whether a dispute is resolved depends on the intentions of those involved: do you strive for harmony, or do you deliberately cause division? For us as Christians, there should be no choice except resolving …

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Elderly Parents: Whose Responsibility Are They? Part 2

Continued from Part 1 My grandparents made their inaugural visit to their sons' homes in the US in 2001. They left with great excitement, eager to see this land of dreams for themselves. They returned a few months later, shattered by the unkindness shown by both daughters-in-law. My grandfather, not a man to exaggerate, stated he'd …

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Elderly Parents: Whose Responsibility Are They? Part 1

Rhetorical question. Elderly parents must obviously be looked after by their children. If a couple has one child, then that child must care for them in their old age. Where there is more than one child, that responsibility must be shared among them all. It's simple, right? Children should look after their old parents. Nothing unheard of, nothing …

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Keeping a Family Together: A Lesson in Forgiveness

I first found out about the circumstances surrounding my birth at the age of 14. My grandmother Mercy wanted to take me to the Infant Jesus feast celebrations at a church near her home, as she’d done many times before. At that age, spending time in a church beyond my weekly Sunday mass wasn’t something …

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